If you know me, you know I love a good goal list. On New Year’s Eve – my favorite holiday – I love reviewing the past year and then making goals for the upcoming year. In fact, every year, I have tried to have my husband write them as well – and it doesn’t always go so well. But this year? He said to me, “I actually have goals this year.” That was the most magical moment of my Whole Entire Year!!! Swoon. I print out year in review pages for my kids and have them write them down. Do they take it totally seriously and write amazing goals that will transform their lives? Nope. Usually the goals are somewhere along the lines of “eat more bacon.” I don’t care – it gets them thinking about self-awareness and determination.
So for this year, I came up with some goals for myself – and here’s how I come up with them:
How I Set Goals
I divide my life into four categories: Spiritual, Intellectual, Emotional and Physical.
I write down 2 or 3 goals under each category.
Any goals that are not self-imposed go on a separate list called “To Do” – I know, super original. But I separate out the things I have to do (not my choice) and keep my goals all ones that are inspiring or “me” oriented. (For instance, saving for taxes is not inspiring – that goes on the to do list for 2016.) (In black, angry ink.) (I hate taxes.) (Hate them. And if you don’t own your own business, just don’t even talk to me about taxes, because you don’t get it.) (That was mean. I’m sorry.)
I make them short term, measurable, specific and achievable yet inspiring.
I do make them on January 1st – even though January is not some magical do-over moment, I make goals on January 1st out of habit and out of the fact that it is the most inspired I feel all year – we’re on holiday break, there’s no school, I have more time that week between Christmas and New Year’s than I do at any other time of the year. It doesn’t have to be January to make goals…just makes sense in my life.
Oh, and most importantly, I buy new pens and paper to make these goals. You totally need that to be inspired and do a good job <–so obvious. ha.
(My favorite pen right now: PaperMate Liquid Flair Medium point. Erin Condren’s felt tip markers. And the Ticonderoga black #2 pencil. Beautiful. All beautiful.)
My goals for 2016
-Won’t share because spiritual goals are personal and mine and I’m not doing them for others.
-Finish one more semester of school. I am freaked out about school. I am overwhelmed by the bill due and the amount of credits to finish (because I have a life to live outside of school – you know, mothering and such.) But my husband is super supportive and we worked up a plan and I think I can do it. I also am allowing myself to work on just doing my best and not obsess about A’s. This is a hard one for me.
-Read. Keep track of books on Goodreads app and on my handwritten list. Do monthly book reports on this blog.
-Work on planning out the future – after school, I need to figure out what our lives are going to look like in the next five years. Kids, husband and I and my own life. I’m making this a goal because we tend to talk about these in the air/floaty ideas, but in the next few years, we are facing some big changes in our lives and I want to be prepared for them.
-Financial goals fall under this category and my main goal here is to save up the emergency fund for 6 months of living and pay off braces, school, kid school and work on finding more affordable health insurance.
-I also have to figure out a way to make my writing habit more intentional. I love writing. But I never pursue it because of… stuff. But I need to because I need to find a purpose for my life. 🙂
-This is a tough one to make measurable, but I super really, really need to learn to not freak out. I do not handle looking at future or big piles of things to do and not be able to see the steps to get there very well. I see the forest. And I think I have to plant it and grow it and enjoy it all in one day or it WILL DIE. The forest won’t die. The forest takes time. The forest is a weird analogy for what I’m trying to portray. But I know what I mean. So… yep. Forest. Trees. Learn to look at them.
-I am not allowing myself to call everything “stupid.” Enough said. (Except taxes. They’re still stupid.)
-If I say to someone, “We should…” I have to carry through on it. My words need to be true.
-Workout – 5x a week
-Lose 20 pounds
-Keep consistent meal plans and figure out a way to automate the shopping (using online grocery/Peapod etc)
Those are my goals! Exciting, no? I love goals and the overarching year ones keep me going and I just need to make sure I keep consistent records. That always helps!