a card sent from church after i visited home from college You've got to do your own growing, no matter how tall your dad was. - Irish proverb They held a special service for the pastor's anniversary. There were videos, blue frosted cupcakes, testimonies of how he and his wife had impacted families, a feel of "this is your life." As the pastor went down the row of his young adult kids, hugging each one in turn, I slipped out of the room, sad and -if I'm honest - angry. Althou